Trial Memberships
Most dating services will allow you look at their dating service membership for free. Of course you have to sign up to make contact, but at least you can see if anyone you would like to meet listed. If your thinking about singing up, look at the number of members listed in your area and look to see if the people signing up share your interests. Part of finding people who share your interests is finding a dating service that promotes those interests.
Be honest about your interests. If you want to meet someone just for sex - say so. If you just want a friend but don't want to get romantically involved - say so. If you like to stay home and watch TV be honest and you'll find someone else who likes to stay home and watch TV. If you like to go dancing say so and you'll find someone else who likes to go dancing.
Having trouble describing yourself to a dating service? Ask a friend to help. Often times a friends can be quite helpful and brutally honest.
Think like a successful salesman.
What does Sales have to do with Dating? Everything, your selling the one product you know inside and out - yourself. Whether it's dating for romance or dating for sex you have to sell yourself! But if it's any consolation, everyone else has to do the same thing.
Every salesman knows that they will have to talk to many potential customers before making a sale. Every Salesman also knows that their odds go up considerably when they're talking to people who are interested in their product.
That's where dating services come in, they boil down to lists of prospective customers. That's not to say that if you package your product attractively enough you won't get customers to come to you. But, for the most part it's up to you to work that list of prospective customers.
I'm not a Salesperson
Most people are not sales people, so most people don't look foreword to the process of selling themselves. Remember the other person is also not a sales person so they are just as worried about selling someone on their attributes.
I had a part time sales job in college. Our sales manager would say "Go out and make 10 people say no to you today". Usually I couldn't get 10 people to say no before I made a sale. There is also an old joke about a guy going around and asking women point blank if they would have sex with him. He got 8 no's slapped and once, but he got a
yes. The point is you will make some sales and you will get some no's.
Psyche your self up for this and realize that you will never see those people who said no again.
Dating Professionals
It seems that lately a number of "professionals" have signed on to the dating services. Bad as that sounds, they won't waste too much of your time. They need to get to the point quickly since it's a business for them. They will usually ask for money within the first two or three contacts. Just move on to the next person or report them if they are aggressive or you were bothered. But don't let them ruin your experience.
Popular Dating Services
We've Listed some of the more popular dating services here for you to check out and compare. Have fun and remember most dating services cost less than a night on the town with your friends, but your odds of meeting someone who shares your interests are much better.
